Parenting

5 Guidelines for Giving Kids Choices

Sindhu Rudraraju
Sindhu Rudraraju

Private Employee

Giving kids choices builds relationships and strengthens cooperation. Providing young children opportunities to use their voices, make decisions, develop ownership, and solve problems are great ways to bond with them too. 

Giving kids Choices also:

  1. Builds respect,
  2. Strengthens the community,
  3. Invites cooperation,
  4. Develops problem-solving skills, and
  5. Capitalizes on kids’ normal human need for power and control. 

Here are 5 guidelines for giving kids a voice and a say according to Sindhu as per her observation, understanding, and experience, let's also take a note of it:

1. Avoid overwhelming them:

Kids want and expect their parents to provide structure and make key family decisions. It helps them feel safe. While it’s great to give kids a say in things, too many or too big of choices can overwhelm them or put too much pressure on them.
Give young children the choice between only two things. If they don’t or can’t pick between the two, don’t offer a third. (This doesn’t include “free play time,” where they should be able to do whatever they’re interested in.)

2. Be consistent:

If you give children choices once, but not the next time, they naturally get frustrated and protest. Their confusion often results in them "pushing back," questioning, or refusing to comply as a way to determine where the "real" boundaries are. Adults often end up viewing this "push-back" as uncooperative or acting-out behavior when it is really just a way for children to determine the extent of their power.

If one night you say, “What do you want for dinner?” and the next night you say, “We’re having rice and you can’t have anything different,” they are likely to whine or protest because boundaries become confusing.

If one weekend you ask, “What do you want to do this morning? Our whole family will do anything you want.” And the next weekend you say, “You are going with Dad to the grocery store then coming to a friend’s house with me,” kids may not understand the incongruence. 

3. Create a ritual around choices:

Make certain choices "rituals." For example, when you go to the park, name two parks and they choose which one. Every Saturday morning they may choose to run errands with you or stay home. Every Friday movie night, put two movies in front of your child and let them choose one. At the library, always let them choose 5 books. At night, they can choose night light on or door open. At lunch, they can choose water or milk to drink. At dinner, they can eat the regular meal or eat rice instead (or whatever choices work for your own family).

4. Ask them to help you fix problems:

If your child is having trouble doing the tasks needed to get out the door, put him in charge. Create a checklist on a clipboard of stick-figure pictures of all the things he needs to do to get ready and have him cross off each thing as it gets done.

Ask your child to help you solve the problem of caps not being put back on markers. (She will be more likely to put the caps on, no matter what strategy she comes up with).

If there are books all over your child’s bedroom floor, ask her how she thinks the floor could stay clear.

5. Thank and reinforce: 

If your child shoveled his books off the floor, you could say, “Wow, this shovel idea you thought of is really working out well. I see the floor is as clear as ever! You’re really taking care of your room.”

If your child chose swimming over hiking, you might say, “Thanks for choosing swimming. It was so fun to splash in the water with you.”

If your child chooses to run errands with you, comment, "I'm so glad you chose to help me out. Doing errands is always more fun with you by my side."

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