Parenting

Four Mentally damaging things we say to our Kids all the time

Ravi Shankar
Ravi Shankar

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Having tried numerous friendly and best parenting tips with his 11-year-old son Uday, Ravi Shankar here tries to explain the most common words and phrases we use with kids in daily life and the way they affect them. Let us also take a leaf out of his experience in parenting. He says that the most used Damaging phrases by parents are:-

1. “You’re too sensitive.”

A result, they react quickly and intensely to just about everything. Parents of such kids often make the mistake of trying to wash that sensitivity out. Over time, this throws the child’s brain chemistry out of wack and reduces their ability to empathize with others. After all, if they’re taught that their emotions don’t matter, why would they think anyone else's, many kids are simply born with a more finely tuned nervous system. As According to psychologists do? Child psychologist Elinor Bashe encourages parents to listen to and accept a child’s emotions, even if they don’t seem logical.

2. “That’s life.”

When your child comes home upset because their best friend rejected their dance request, it can be tempting to say, “Well, that’s life.” What that phrase suggests is, “Hey - your experience here is nothing unique,  keep up with it.” That might be totally appropriate to say to a 25-year-old under the same circumstances. But a child’s brain is physically unable to grasp the fact that their experiences are not unique. When you tell them that, they’ll feel guilty, frustrated and confused.

Instead, you should validate their experience and then encourage resiliency.

3. “Because I said so.”

I get it. Little boy refuses to go to sleep at 8 pm unless he knows why. His mom, in an irritated state of mind, says, “You wanna know why?  Because I said so .”

That is a terrible response. It tends to build resentment in children because it forces them to accept a dogmatic belief. This will inevitably lead to a power struggle when that child learns to come up with answers on their own that question their parents’ authority.

Instead, as frustrating as it might be, why not just answer the question? I mean, your parenting decisions are based on logic – why not share that with your child? It will help them understand that, sometimes, authority really does know best.

4. “Shut up.”

Kids learn from a very young age that the phrase ‘shut up’ is meant as an insult. And let’s face it – the last person who should be insulting a child is their parent. Now, chances are you’ve got a very good reason for telling your child to ‘shut up.’

That reason is likely that you’re overwhelmed. It happens. Your kid won’t stop singing mass songs and socially, it’s really frustrating. But instead of telling them to shut up, why not explain that – hey, mommy had a long day and she’d really appreciate some quiet time!

Better still, give your child a chance to make all the noise they want and tell them that at ‘X’ time, they need to be quiet.

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